Make Happiness

Music has an incredible power to alter our moods. Unlike alcohol or prescription drugs, music has almost no negative side effects. A great song can cheer you up more quickly than the most well-reasoned argument. A good set of upbeat tunes can help you to keep a good mood going all day long.

Musical tastes are very personal. You must find the songs that help to improve your mood. Here are some songs that work well for me:

• Alan Jackson – Chattahoochee
• Alanis Morissette – You Learn
• Alison Krauss – You Say It Best When You Say Nothing At All
• Allman Brothers – Ramblin Man
• Autograph – Turn Up the Radio
• Bachman Turner Overdrive – Roll On Down the Highway
• Bad English – When I See You Smile
• Bette Midler – From A Distance
• Ben E. King – Stand By Me
• Bill Medley – (I’ve Had) The Time Of My Life
• Bill Withers – Lean On Me
• Billy Joe Royal – Down In the Boondocks
• Billy Joel – My Life
• Billy Ocean – When The Going Gets Tough
• Billy Swan – I Can Help
• Byrds – To Everything There Is A Season
• Blondie – The Tide Is High
• Blues Brothers – Soul Man
• Bob Seger – Still The Same
• Bobby McFerrin – Don’t Worry, Be Happy
• Bryan Adams – Eighteen ’til I Die
• Carly Simon – Nobody Does It Better
• Cars – Good Times Roll
• Champs – Tequila
• Commodores – Nightshift
• Corey Hart – Never Surrender
• Cyndi Lauper – True Colors
• Damn Yankees – High Enough
• Dan Seals – I Wanna Bop With You Baby
• Denise Williams – Lets Hear It For The Boy
• Desree – You Gotta Be
• Dexy’s Midnight Runners – Come On Eileen
• Diana Carter – Strawberry Wine
• Dionne Warwick – That’s What Friends Are For
• Dobie Gray – Drift Away
• Dream Academy – Life In A Northern Town
• Eagles – Get Over It
• Eddie Rabbit – Driving My Life Away
• Edwin Mccain – I’ll Be
• Eric Carmen – Make Me Lose Control
• Eric Johnson – Cliffs of Dover
• Fleetwood Mac – Monday Morning
• Frank Sinatra – My Way
• Garth Brooks – Friends In Low Places
• George Thoroughgood – Bad to the Bone
• Glass Tiger – Someday
• Greenday – When I Come Around
• Hank Williams Jr. – A Country Boy Can Survive
• Huey Lews and the News – It’s Alright
• Harold Faltermeyer – Axel F
• Jay and the Americans – Come a Little Bit Closer
• Joe Satriani – Always With Me, Always With You
• John Lennon – Imagine
• John Mellencamp – Your Life Is Now
• John Parr – Man in Motion
• Johnny Nash – I Can See Clearly Now
• Journey – Dont Stop Believing
• Katrina and the Waves – Walking on Sunshine
• Kenny Loggins – I’m Alright
• Lee Ann Womack – I Hope You Dance
• Lynn Anderson – Rose Garden
• Manfred Mann – Quinn the Eskimo
• Mariah Carey – Hero
• Nitty Gritty Dirt Band – Tropical Vacation
• Norman Greenbaum – Spirit in The Sky
• Offspring – Self Esteem
• Orleans – Still The One
• Otis Redding – Sitting on the Dock of the Bay
• Pat Benetar – We Belong
• Pretenders – I’ll Stand By You
• Proclaimers – 500 miles
• Queen – We are the Champions
• Ray Charles – Georgia On My Mind
• Refreshments – Banditos
• R.E.M. – Everybody Hurts
• Rembrandts – I’ll Be There For Yo
• REO Speedwagon – Roll With The Changes
• Ricky Nelson – Garden Party
• Roger Miller – King of the Road
• Rolling Stones – You Can’t Always Get What You Want
• Rupert Holmes – The Pina Colada Song
• Sammy Hagar – Mas Tequila
• Sarah McLaughlin – In The Arms of an Angel
• Savage Garden – The Animal Song
• Scorpions – Wind Of Change
• Sheena Easton – My Baby Takes The Morning Train
• Sheryl Crow – Soak Up The Sun
• Simon and Garfunkel – Bridge Over Troubled Water
• Sinead O’Connor – Nothing Compares to You
• Sister Hazel – Change Your Mind
• Skid Row – I Remember You
• Smash Mouth – Walking On The Sun
• Sonny and Cher – I Got You Babe
• Sophie B. Hawkins – As I Lay Me Down
• Tears for Fears – Everybody Wants To Rule The World
• Talking Heads – Burning Down the House
• Todd Rundgren – Bang on the Drum All Day
• Tom Cochrane – Life Is A Highway
• Tommy James – Draggin the Line
• Timbuk3 – The_Future’s So Bright, I Gotta Wear Shades
• Tonic – If You Could Only See
• UB40 – Red Red Wine
• Vanity Fare – Hitchin’ a Ride
• We Five – You Were On My Mind
• Wilson Philips – Hold On

For a more scientific discussion of this phenomena, read Intensely pleasurable responses to music correlate with activity in brain regions implicated in reward and emotion by Anne J. Blood and Robert J. Zatorre.

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Human Needs is an extremely valuable tool in understanding how happiness is achieved and maintained.

Maslow’s hierarchy is usually envisioned as a pyramid, with the most basic and most important needs at the bottom of the stack.

As each of our levels of needs are met, we start to worry about the next level of the pyramid. A person who cannot breathe does not spend a lot of effort worrying about self-esteem issues. But, when his physiological needs are met, he does begin to worry about his safety needs.

People at one level of the pyramid often mistakenly believe that they will be happy if only they can get to the next level. Then, when they achieve the next level they are surprised to discover that they are not happy.

One incredibly important key to happiness is to enjoy the process of moving up the pyramid. As each new level is achieved, there will be a temporary rush of joyful celebration — but it will soon subside as you acclimate to the new level and see the challenges presented by the level still above you.

Achieving stable and lasting happiness requires that you are able to appreciate the progress that you have made and the joy that you will receive at each level of the pyramid which you achieve in the future.  The requires a holistic viewpoint of the struggles of your life, an understanding that these struggles are a gift, and an appreciation of the joy that these struggles can bring.

One of the problems with many happiness programs is that they insult your intelligence. You’re not stupid. You can’t fool yourself into being happy. You have to convince yourself to be happy and you have to be believeable when you do so.

It’s easy to think of the things which make us unhappy. Write down a list of things that you have to be happy about. Make each item a real item — something which is important to you.

Here are a few examples:

• I have a wonderful family.
• I have a wonderful wife/husband.
• I am in (generally) good health.
• I work with some great people.
• I live in an awesome country.
• I live in a nice house/apartment.
• My future looks brighter than my present or my past.
• My kids will have a better life than I did.
• I have a job and I do it well.
• My car is reliable.
• My conscience is clean.
• Through hard work and intelligent effort, I am able to affect my future.
• I can go outside today if I want to and feel the Sun on my shoulders.
• I can read a good book this week.
• I possess unrealized potential.

Not all of these will apply to everyone. Make up your own list. Don’t bullshit yourself. Each one must be something which is important to you personally.

Keep the list with you. Review it when you’re feeling discouraged. At times, you will need to strike items from the list. As you do, work hard to replace each item with a new one. Happiness isn’t a static thing. Every new day gives us new ways to be happy.

Far too many people spend their lives searching for happiness when they should be making it instead.

 Happiness is not something that you can find in other people, other places, or other experiences.  Happiness is something that you have to create within yourself.

 Your happiness is your own responsibility and it is one of the most important responsibilities you will have in your life.  Get to it!